I've already read, Rita Ewing and Crystal McCrary's book, Homecourt Advantage years ago and recognized the characters of my past in print. I say, "characters" because I've never met the authors, but I know the personas and type of people that are written about in the book, because I lived it for more than 4 years.
Anyone who's on the periphery or dead center in the game and maintains a relationship, personally or professionally with someone associated with professional basketball can identify with the book ~ and if he/she disagrees, then he/she is lying.
The way to survive in the "circle of trust" is to not air your dirty laundry about the fraternity. Loose lips sink ships. The sororities of women (i.e. in the family lounge, in the stands, and in the hotel lobbies) do not mix. You're either a respected member or you're a joke/threat. Wives and girlfriends don't appreciate new faces. Anyone new, has to earn trust. See no evil, speak no evil, hear no evil and everyone can survive, "peacefully". I could write post after post with crazy details and stories, but I won't. This blog isn't about that, and no one wants their business out there. Everyone thinks being a NBA wife or girlfriend is easy. It is not. Sure, everyone thinks that money makes it all better, but money doesn't fix everything. Sure for the women relationships start and end, but contracts keep their men on TV, in ads, and in the papers. Love is beautiful and can be difficult, but breaking up is hard to do when so many people have their nose or want to put their nose in your business. Sooooo...
OK, after being sent the link and a few emails about Basketball Wives, Season 1, I'm finally downloading Episode 1. I have mixed feelings about what I think I'm going to see. I doubt there's anything that'll really shock or surprise me, I've been there and done that and whatever I haven't lived, I've seen... It was the best of times, it was the worst of times ~ but those years sure were interesting!
According to EW.com (Entertainment Weekly's online presence), "VH1 has ordered eight episodes of a new reality show called Basketball Wives that will reveal what it’s like to be married to, dating, or done with an NBA player. Participants include Jennifer Williams (wife of Eric Williams), Evelyn Lozada (ex-fiancé of Antoine Walker), Mesha O’Neal (wife of Jermaine O’Neal), Royce Reed (mother of Dwight Howard’s son), Faith Rain (Udonis Haslem’s girlfriend) and Shaunie O’Neal (wife of Shaquille O’Neal), who will also serve as an executive producer."
I have no idea what I'm about to see, and I'm curious how honest these women are going to be. I know I wouldn't want all of my business thrown out there for public consumption. Some secrets and stories I'll take with me to the grave, because they're no one's business... I saw that Shaq (i.e. who is resting and not playing tonight as the Atlanta Hawks take on the Cleveland Cavaliers) has referred to the show as "televised revenge". Well you know the saying ~ "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned."
The next episode of Basketball Wives is scheduled to run on April 18. The show is on Sundays at 10PM EST on VH1.
Here's an oldie but a goodie for you, Skee-Lo's, "I Wish". You're welcome.
THE WIRK, an NBA ex-fiancee